I had a spur of the moment visit from a friend earlier today. (I love it when things just happen and come together and feed the soul).
And at some point we started talking about what makes a good friend. And for me I think the answer is that I know you are a good friend when I can be vulnerable around you…when I can admit that I don’t know all the answers and I might even be struggling with the question. When I can be my imperfect self around you.
For me you are a good friend if I will phone you in the middle of the night when I am in trouble.
You are a good friend when we can say to each other, “I am upset about … but I forgive you”.
For me the biggest sign that someone is a good friend is that you feel refreshed and energised after spending time with them.
Life is short and relationships take work, but in the case of a good friendship, in my experience, the work feels effortless.
Love and friendships,